Dealing with a bad relationship can sometimes become so overwhelming that you lose your perspective on what is real and what is in your own imagination or what you perceive to be craziness.

Years ago I went through a similar situation that once I finally figured out what was happening, I was able to handle it better. Funny thing is, I didn't have the Internet and help pages such as this to help me figure it out. I had reached a very, very low point and knew something had to change. So, I started analyzing my part in the whole craziness and realized that my reactions were actually fueling the fire. I didn't think so when I was in the middle of it, but when I went away for a while and really did some soul searching, I could see just exactly how my part was helping this bad relationship be worse, I just had to step away from it to figure it out.

I'm not saying that I was the major contributor, no, no, his crazy actions made this bad relationship what it was from the start. Problem was, I still loved him more than I ever had. So, what was I to do? How was I to figure this all out? I came up with a plan that developed over time. Eventually, much, much later, years later in fact, I wrote it all down in the form of an eBook.

My experiences have taught me so many things about how we can be happy again, how we should be reacting to the strange ways our boyfriend or girlfriend  or spouse treats us, and what we can do to not give in to the craziness, but to rather use it to turn the relationship around to a positive, happy relationship.  It can be done.  It really can. 

Do I have a PhD in psychology?  No.  Am I an authority on this subject because of hours and hours of studying the psychological mind?  No.  But what I do have is years of experience learning to cope with an unhealthy relationship.

I figured a few things out.  One is that some relationships really can be saved.  These could be the ones that seem hopeless.  Some relationships cannot be, no matter what you do, it just won't work.  But wouldn't you rather try everything you can try before closing the door?  You may regret it later if you do not.